i agree with Eliezer when he said something like “acting the way women say they want men to act has gotten me nowhere”.
here is my two cents...very anti-overcomingbias but...seriously...love (and sex) is so beyond rationality. if there is anything which is beyond the scope of rationality, it is emotion.
sometimes emotion seems like the best RNG of all time, to me.
btw Laura ABJ...i feel awful in a way to even say this, but my best girlfriend prospects at this moment are girls who’ve (regularly) traded sex for money. i hardly know any other women. of them, there are a couple i would definitely choose to stay with, one i would not. to me it makes no difference that they’ve done what they have. money is funny.