Thank you for writing this out. Don’t lose heart if the response isn’t what you’d hoped—some future post could even be curated into the featured section. Why I say that? The bits about ineffective self-talk:
He notices that he made a mistake by not trusting his gut instinct earlier enough, and then decides once again that he made another mistake. This is not, actually, the only reaction one could have. One could instead react in the following way: “Oops, I guess I didn’t make a mistake after all.” These two different reactions calibrate the mind in two different directions.
For me, it’s been important to change my self-talk towards compassion and acceptance, and this presents an interesting new dimension. If it helps us experience life (including our rationalist journey) as more fun, that’s so important. Ties in with what Nate was saying about stoking genuine enthusiasm, in his sequence Replacing Guilt.
Paraphrasing from How to Take Smart Notes by Sönke Ahrens: we easily get away with unfounded claims when we speak orally. We can distract from argumentative gaps with a “you know what I mean”, even if on introspection we would find that we don’t know what we mean. Writing permanent notes will make these gaps obvious.