This was a good read. The problem with using dating apps to gauge success is that their methods and marketing are arguably incentivized to attract users who never form long term matches and still continue to use the app.
One possible explanation for lack of success that is touched upon through other explanations but never explicitly stated is the mismatch of expectations in our current always-internet-connected world. Depending on what you’ve been exposed to your expectations might be very specific/different from the rest of the dating market.
I don’t think the main takeaway was to focus only on what matters, I understood it as advice to spend more time thinking about what is worth different levels of focus and why.