Force comes from the barrel of a gun. It may or may not lead to actual power. There are countless historical examples where use of force simply served to fan the flames of resistance or where brutal persecutions only strengthened the cause.
People generally listen to the powers-that-be because said powers still look after their interests to an extent. People might not like the local tyrant. They may yearn for a better government. They are also keenly aware of how things can get worse. If the Emperor is tough on crime, leaves you alone if you follow the rules, and makes the trains run on time, that’s probably better than a bloody civil war or domination by criminal gangs.
If I willingly submit to force, it’s because I expect better treatment than I’d get by resisting.
What’s the base rate on lackluster social skills? Based on the popularity of self-help books and seminars aimed at improving social skills, I’m led to believe that social butterflies aren’t all that common among the general population either.
Curious use of the singular “interest”. Somehow I don’t think intelligence is the real issue here. Rather, it strikes me as a consequence of diverging interests. Let’s take youth/high school sports teams. There are the so-called dumb jocks and then there are athletic geniuses (for example, Alan Turing was an extremely good runner). You could easily end up with a skilled team featuring a large gap in IQ scores. The endpoints of this gap would have overlapping interests despite the intelligence difference. It’s the people who focus their attention on a narrow range of topics outside the mainstream who are likely to have the most trouble.