daenerys

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daenerys Jan 2, 2014, 6:01 PM
15 points
in reply to: David_Gerard’s comment on: What are you working on? January 2014
Thanks for the input! I think I wasn’t clear though. I actually already am a networky type person (the tribe I am leaving behind is one that I did most of the work building) with high social skills.

However, I am ALSO extremely picky in who I’ll allow into my close social circle (I have well thought out reasons for this). That means to start a new tribe I’ll have to meet LOTS and LOTS of people just to find one that I consider to be worth my time. When I already have a group, then I don’t have to be overly proactive about this because there’s no particular rush, so I can just pull in people as I come across them. However when I’m starting with zero, I’m in a bit of a rush, and therefore have to plan going to various events with lots of people I don’t know and meet them all, and find most of them boring, or assholes, or unable to logic, or unable to social, or whatnot, and those are the people I have to go through over and over in order to find a single person who I’d actually want to be friends with. And as much as I HAVE social skills, I am also an introvert at core, and so find the idea to be draining (especially right now, when I’m already emotionally drained from moving!). This is not a massive problem, and I can easily overcome the draininess, but I still recognize that it is what I will struggle the most with in the next couple months. :)

daenerys Jan 2, 2014, 9:32 AM
16 points
on: What are you working on? January 2014
There’s the overall “move to Portland and start at my awesome new job” Project, which is coming along well. A friend and I drove here from Ohio (pretty much across the entire country) in a little over two days. We drove because I have a very old dog that I didn’t want to fly. My POD arrives tomorrow, and I’m excited to have all my things back in my possession (I didn’t bring any nice shirts or sweaters with me, so I’ve been feeling slovenly-ish), but I am NOT excited for having to unpack and move furniture.

More specifically, I’m working on helping to launch the Beekeeper program at Beeminder. If you want to read more about that you can read this blog post we just released on the subject.

Personal-life-wise, I’ve just started on the “find my tribe here” Project, which I don’t like. I like HAVING a tribe (and very much miss the awesome group I left in Columbus), but actually having to go out and either find one or put one together sounds like less fun.

daenerys Dec 11, 2013, 1:46 AM
7 points
in reply to: AndekN’s comment on: December Monthly Bragging Thread
Title and link to buy?

daenerys Dec 4, 2013, 3:01 AM
30 points
on: December Monthly Bragging Thread
Got a super awesome new job with Beeminder, and will be moving to Portland in a month. Got rid of so much clothing in preparation for move. Continuing to get rid of things that I don’t consider worth moving.

New hobby, making earrings, has been fun and rewarding, and I get pretty earrings out of it. Also, learned to make cake pops, and working on a braid rug.

Held a mega-meetup in Columbus that went off well. Handed off the running of Columbus Rationality, and it’s proven to be self-sustaining.

Medical All Things- Got put on allergy shots (did the “rush immunotherapy” where they give you the first six months worth of shots over the course of a single day). Dentisted the cavities.

daenerys Nov 24, 2013, 8:41 PM
18 points
in reply to: lmm’s comment on: What can we learn from freemasonry?

I guess the obvious counterproposal is: why don’t we just all join the existing freemasons rather than doing work to duplicate them?

Women aren’t allowed to be Freemasons, except for a few rare and extenuating circumstances.

daenerys Nov 21, 2013, 4:49 AM
13 points
in reply to: JoshuaZ’s comment on: Self-serving meta: Whoever keeps block-downvoting me, is there some way to negotiate peace?

And it is unlikely for the foreseeable future that the mods are going to o anything.

Just pointing out that this IS a problem that is temporarily solvable by collective action. If about five people decided to karmassassinate the user in question, they could keep his karma at 0, which I believe would stop him from being able to downvote (until he set up a sock).

(Interestingly, I’m quite fine with losing a significant amount of karma if this post gets heavily downvoted because people don’t like the idea of mob rule. I really don’t care about my karma number. But there’s a big difference between losing magic internet points because people disagree with what you say, versus someone following you around downvoting you, which feels stalkery/predatory.)

daenerys Nov 18, 2013, 11:50 PM
48 points
in reply to: Adele_L’s comment on: Self-serving meta: Whoever keeps block-downvoting me, is there some way to negotiate peace?

It’s probably worth talking to these people and seeing if the timing works out the same, but it does seem likely that the downvoting is all caused by the same person, and thus would have similar motives and MO with the downvoting.

Personally, I am pretty certain that is gender issues that cause my karma stalking. It’s the only topic I write on that gets any significant number of downvotes. Also, due to timing, my best guess (though I’m not highly confident) is that the triggering event was my post in the mistakes thread admitting to staying married longer than I should have due to not being confident in my independence. I knew when writing it that some of the MRA assholes on here would take offense at it.

Also, whoever is doing it has pretty effectively made me unlikely to post a lot on here. (I still occassionally browse, and obviously I’m writing this, so it’s not like I’ve completely quit or anything.) It’s annoying to deal with (and saying “you should just stop caring” is about as effective of advice as telling people to “be more confident”). Considering that half my facebook feed is rationalist/LWers anyways, it’s higher reward to just post my thoughts there and not have to deal with the LW baggage, but still get the interesting conversation with the people I want to talk with anyways.

Just figured I should say something because if evaporative cooling is happening in general (and it isn’t just me), it could be hidden because the people who leave aren’t saying anything.

(ETA: I actually have not lost a LOT of karma from this, so it’s not the amount/number. It’s just the fact that it’s consistent, and it’s everything I post)
What links here?

daenerys Oct 31, 2013, 4:55 AM
12 points
in reply to: DanArmak’s comment on: Why officers vs. enlisted?

Is it merely historical accident for each separate profession?

Just like the two ladders in militaries is a holdover from a more classist society, the doctor/nurse divide is at least partly a holdover from a past (more) sexist society. Even today about 90% of nurses are women. This might be interesting if someone had access past the paywall: http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/3540064

daenerys Oct 23, 2013, 10:32 PM
34 points
on: Open Thread, October 20 − 26, 2013
Someone has been regularly downvoting every thing I’ve posted in the past couple months (not just a single karmassasination). I really don’t care about the karma (so please DO NOT upvote any of my previous posts in order to “fix” it), but I do worry that if someone is doing it to me, they are possibly doing it to other/new people and driving them off, so I wanted to point out publicly that this behaviour is NOT OKAY.

Anyways, if you have a problem with me, feel free to tell me about it here: http://www.admonymous.com/daenerys . Crocker’s Rules and all.
What links here?
- Adele_L's comment on Self-serving meta: Whoever keeps block-downvoting me, is there some way to negotiate peace? by ialdabaoth (Nov 17, 2013, 6:08 AM; 26 points)
- witzvo's comment on Open Thread, October 20 − 26, 2013 by Adele_L (Oct 28, 2013, 1:05 AM; 5 points)

daenerys Oct 22, 2013, 7:46 PM
3 points
in reply to: asr’s comment on: Open Thread, October 20 − 26, 2013
Awesome! I loved Kuhn’s Structure of Scientific Revolutions, and it seems like an interesting subject, besides.

daenerys Oct 22, 2013, 6:40 AM
12 points
on: Open Thread, October 20 − 26, 2013
I recently realized that I think the stuff I already know about the history of science, math, etc., is really inherently interesting and fascinating to me, but that I’ve never actually thought about going out of my way to learn more on the subject. Does anybody on here have one really good book on the subject to recommend? I’ve already read Science and the Enlightenment by Hankins.

daenerys Oct 5, 2013, 11:44 PM
3 points
on: Megameetup on December 13-15th, NYC
This sounds awesome, I can’t wait! What’s the parking situation for people who are driving up?

daenerys Oct 4, 2013, 9:36 PM
2 points
on: Schelling Point Strategy Training
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daenerys Oct 3, 2013, 12:51 AM
4 points
in reply to: ChristianKl’s comment on: Open Thread, September 30 - October 6, 2013
Those sorts of questions are asked in a field called Information Visualization, which is a part of Human Factors Engineering.

daenerys Sep 22, 2013, 7:29 PM
4 points
on: Meetup : Columbus, OH MEGA-MEETUP, Oct 11-13
UPDATE: The upcoming Columbus Mega-Meetup is already halfway full! Don’t put off pre-registering, if you are interested in coming, or you might get locked out. ( link to pre-reg form )

Pre-registration is FREE and the form should only take a minute. You can cancel as late as October 4, if you end up unable to come. Thanks!

daenerys Sep 15, 2013, 1:29 PM
7 points
in reply to: Manfred’s comment on: Meetup : Columbus, OH MEGA-MEETUP, Oct 11-13

In the previous thread, you mentioned “Friday we may do a swing dance class. Sunday we may go shopping.”

Is the Maker’s Faire the shopping? Has the swing dancing disappeared into the void?

Swing dancing has disappeared into the void. It was for a different weekend that was under consideration for the mega-meetup. If you already swing dance, I’ll happily dance with you for a bit, and/or we have some new leads who would love some instruction, if you’d like to work with them. If you DON’T already swing dance, I’m happy to teach you the basics.

The Maker’s Faire is a free, nifty event. You are more than welcome to organize a shopping trip instead of/in addition to it.

Also, I’m relatively certain that at some point Jeni’s will be had, because it is a sin to come to Columbus and NOT do Jeni’s. Also, it is walkable distance from both our main hangout location, and most of our members’ houses.

Meetup : Columbus, OH MEGA-MEETUP, Oct 11-13

daenerysSep 15, 2013, 6:33 AM

7 points

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daenerys Sep 9, 2013, 10:01 PM
13 points
on: The State of the Art of Scientific Research on Polyamoury
This dissertation blog focuses on the author’s doctoral work on polyamory, including lots of reference lists (scroll down to see reference list for post).

daenerys Sep 9, 2013, 6:12 PM
13 points
on: Mistakes repository
-Taking the non-thinking NPC college route (going to whatever school was close enough to commute to, majoring in classes you thought were easy or letting your family influence your decision too much)

-Getting married extremely young because you think (probably correctly) that you can’t support yourself, and then staying married much longer than you should have for the same reasoning (probably incorrect, by then).

-Spending most of college trying (and failing miserably) to take a large course load before realizing that you really just can’t do it, and the only way for you to actually succeed is to only take two or three classes at a time so that you can do perfectly in all of them (i.e. stop trying to fight your perfectionism if it’s causing you to fail, and just give in to it).

-Waiting much too long to start on a career track.

daenerys Sep 9, 2013, 5:45 PM
9 points
in reply to: Kaj_Sotala’s comment on: Open thread, September 9-15, 2013
In my experience, this is something that liberal arts does better than STEM. When I was a History undergrad they DID teach many contrasting theories or interpretations (once you got past 101-level stuff). The common interpretation these days is to say that “Here are three theories for why happened. They probably all contributed to .”, instead of just choosing a single interpretation.

daenerys

Meetup : Colum­bus, OH MEGA-MEETUP, Oct 11-13

Meetup : Columbus, OH MEGA-MEETUP, Oct 11-13