Conversely, it is also good to limit reading about what other people are grateful for, especially if you’re feeling particularly ungrateful and they have things you don’t. Facebook is a huge offender here, because people tend to post about themselves when they’re doing well, rather than when they’re needing support. Seeing other people as more happy than they are leaves you wondering why you aren’t as happy as they are. It also feeds the illusion that others do not need your help.
Facebook is a huge offender here, because people tend to post about themselves when they’re doing well, rather than when they’re needing support.
My suspicion is that people are more likely to be specific in positive than negative comments. “Vaguebooking,” even if you know it represents serious pain, doesn’t give you as vivid an image as someone celebrating a new job.
Could be just your group of friends. I have many Facebook associates who post just like that, but others whine and yet others have problems they’re seeking advice on, etc.
Conversely, it is also good to limit reading about what other people are grateful for, especially if you’re feeling particularly ungrateful and they have things you don’t. Facebook is a huge offender here, because people tend to post about themselves when they’re doing well, rather than when they’re needing support. Seeing other people as more happy than they are leaves you wondering why you aren’t as happy as they are. It also feeds the illusion that others do not need your help.
My suspicion is that people are more likely to be specific in positive than negative comments. “Vaguebooking,” even if you know it represents serious pain, doesn’t give you as vivid an image as someone celebrating a new job.
Could be just your group of friends. I have many Facebook associates who post just like that, but others whine and yet others have problems they’re seeking advice on, etc.