7. Figure out who you’re trying to convince, then use the right tribal signals
I would define weirdness as emitting signals that the tribe recognizes as “other” but not “enemy”. Emitting enough of the in-group signals may counteract that.
This is also reminiscent of John Gottman’s empirical research on married couples where he found they were much more likely to split if the ratio of positive to negative interactions was less than 5 to 1.
This seems like a subset of point #7 here (https://slatestarcodex.com/2016/02/20/writing-advice/)
7. Figure out who you’re trying to convince, then use the right tribal signals
I would define weirdness as emitting signals that the tribe recognizes as “other” but not “enemy”. Emitting enough of the in-group signals may counteract that.
This is also reminiscent of John Gottman’s empirical research on married couples where he found they were much more likely to split if the ratio of positive to negative interactions was less than 5 to 1.