You’re not the first person to ask me this, but there are obvious difficulties in conveying exactly what is going on when I do this.
The first step is becoming consciously aware of the phenomenon. Once this occurs, I begin to recognize it immediately when I do it. I then think to myself how I should have responded instead. Over multiple iterations of the above, I begin to internalize this conscious correction as a new habit.
I first used this technique when I took a course on cognition in college and learned about cognitive biases. The availability heuristic was the first to go—I knew when I didn’t have actual data on a phenomenon, making it ridiculously easy to spot.
You’re not the first person to ask me this, but there are obvious difficulties in conveying exactly what is going on when I do this.
The first step is becoming consciously aware of the phenomenon. Once this occurs, I begin to recognize it immediately when I do it. I then think to myself how I should have responded instead. Over multiple iterations of the above, I begin to internalize this conscious correction as a new habit.
I first used this technique when I took a course on cognition in college and learned about cognitive biases. The availability heuristic was the first to go—I knew when I didn’t have actual data on a phenomenon, making it ridiculously easy to spot.
Tentatively—once you decide what you want to change, you put your focus on the change, and check for the outcome after you’ve taken action.
I begin to suspect that one of my problems is assuming I know how a change will feel, and giving up on a change if I don’t get the feeling.