Downvoted, not because the content of the post is bad, but because it encourages people to list polite ways to get out of annoying conversations, decide they don’t count as polite anymore, and throw hissy fits when people won’t discuss their pet topic.
Upvoted, not for your downvote, but for raising the point that these expressions can serve as conversational signals of what LWers call tapping out. (Tangent: “tapping out” in the LW sense is a terrible appropriation of a term from a different context, because in the original context it explicitly and literally signals submission.)
Indeed. Most of the examples have a very clear conversational meaning: “that’s nice, I’m not interested, but I’m trying not to be rude about it.” Failure on the listener’s part to understand this is not a failure of rationality on the speaker’s part. I note the examples being raised are mostly clearly of this sort, rather than in a conversation that is anything to do with careful application of thought.
Downvoted, not because the content of the post is bad, but because it encourages people to list polite ways to get out of annoying conversations, decide they don’t count as polite anymore, and throw hissy fits when people won’t discuss their pet topic.
Upvoted, not for your downvote, but for raising the point that these expressions can serve as conversational signals of what LWers call tapping out. (Tangent: “tapping out” in the LW sense is a terrible appropriation of a term from a different context, because in the original context it explicitly and literally signals submission.)
I’ve used “stepping out” in contexts where the LW usage wouldn’t be understood.
Nice!
“Safewording” is another term that would work.
Indeed. Most of the examples have a very clear conversational meaning: “that’s nice, I’m not interested, but I’m trying not to be rude about it.” Failure on the listener’s part to understand this is not a failure of rationality on the speaker’s part. I note the examples being raised are mostly clearly of this sort, rather than in a conversation that is anything to do with careful application of thought.
In other words, sometimes stopsigns are useful.