Caledonian, thank you. I didn’t notice that there might be people who disagree with that, since it seemed to me so clearly true and unarguable.
I guess in the extreme case somebody could believe that fairness has nothing to do with agreement. He might find a bunch of people who have a deal that each of them believes is fair, and he might argue that each of them is wrong, that their deal is actually unfair to every one of them. That each of them is deforming his own soul by agreeing to this horrible deal.
My thought about that is that there might be some deal that none of them has thought of, that would indeed be better for each of them. Maybe if they heard about the other deal they’d all prefer it. I’d want to listen to his proposals and see if I could understand them, or get new ideas from them.
But when somebody argues that a deal is unfair to somebody else, unfair to somebody who himself thinks it is not unfair to himself, it disrespects that person. It is a way to say that he doesn’t know what he’s doing, that he isn’t competent to make his own deals, that he’s a stupid or ignorant person who does not know what’s good for him, that he needs you to take care of him and make his decisions for him. In general it is rude. And yet sometimes it could be true that people are stupid and agree to deals that are unfair to them because they don’t know any better. There are probably 40 million american Republicans I’d suspect of that....
Caledonian, thank you. I didn’t notice that there might be people who disagree with that, since it seemed to me so clearly true and unarguable.
I guess in the extreme case somebody could believe that fairness has nothing to do with agreement. He might find a bunch of people who have a deal that each of them believes is fair, and he might argue that each of them is wrong, that their deal is actually unfair to every one of them. That each of them is deforming his own soul by agreeing to this horrible deal.
My thought about that is that there might be some deal that none of them has thought of, that would indeed be better for each of them. Maybe if they heard about the other deal they’d all prefer it. I’d want to listen to his proposals and see if I could understand them, or get new ideas from them.
But when somebody argues that a deal is unfair to somebody else, unfair to somebody who himself thinks it is not unfair to himself, it disrespects that person. It is a way to say that he doesn’t know what he’s doing, that he isn’t competent to make his own deals, that he’s a stupid or ignorant person who does not know what’s good for him, that he needs you to take care of him and make his decisions for him. In general it is rude. And yet sometimes it could be true that people are stupid and agree to deals that are unfair to them because they don’t know any better. There are probably 40 million american Republicans I’d suspect of that....