Well, I’ll give you some context. I am Scandinavian, and inclined to answer “no”. Here’s why:
Making my parents proud does not really feel like one of my main goals. I care about having a loving relationship with my parents, and I care about my parents being healthy, happy etc. I know they are proud of me, but it doesn’t feel like an important goal in itself.
Note: They do have very similar values and we’re all generally happy with the relationship.
Also, they don’t have any narrow standards for being pleased, rather the opposite. Like, I have different views on politics and have made some life decisions they’d disprefer—but they are overall chill about that and don’t really pressure me to adopt their views and preferred choices.
I suspect actually parents being less controlling of their kids in Scandinavia may be related to the lower emphasis on “making your parents proud”.
Oh, that’s a REALLY interesting point. I’m Scandinavian in heritage, though a number of generations in Canada and the US, and I also would answer “no”. Not because it’s unimportant, but because I already have it, and it was never really in question.
Well, I’ll give you some context. I am Scandinavian, and inclined to answer “no”. Here’s why:
Making my parents proud does not really feel like one of my main goals. I care about having a loving relationship with my parents, and I care about my parents being healthy, happy etc. I know they are proud of me, but it doesn’t feel like an important goal in itself.
Note: They do have very similar values and we’re all generally happy with the relationship.
Also, they don’t have any narrow standards for being pleased, rather the opposite. Like, I have different views on politics and have made some life decisions they’d disprefer—but they are overall chill about that and don’t really pressure me to adopt their views and preferred choices.
I suspect actually parents being less controlling of their kids in Scandinavia may be related to the lower emphasis on “making your parents proud”.
Oh, that’s a REALLY interesting point. I’m Scandinavian in heritage, though a number of generations in Canada and the US, and I also would answer “no”. Not because it’s unimportant, but because I already have it, and it was never really in question.