I almost always have a product I’m trying to build, and a particular frame for the conversation that I’m most interested
I think people showing up with other frames that explore different directions is almost always good. All else being equal more comments is better even if they aren’t quite the frame I had.
People who make demands on my time that aren’t related to the conversation I wanted to have are at least somewhat negative for me, and on the margin make me want to post somewhere else or not at all.
I usually prefer getting feedback on writing style/quality
Ideas vary in terms of “early stage” vs “late stage”, and generally in the early stage I care more about people understanding my frame, and in the later stages I think it makes sense for people to critique it in more detail, from a variety of frames.
My sense of “who is responsible for emotional state” is sort of complicated and maybe beyond scope for this comment. But also, I don’t think I usually run into this problem on my own posts, in part because I try to design posts such that disagreements play out in a way I consider productive.
Answering for myself on my own posts:
I almost always have a product I’m trying to build, and a particular frame for the conversation that I’m most interested
I think people showing up with other frames that explore different directions is almost always good. All else being equal more comments is better even if they aren’t quite the frame I had.
People who make demands on my time that aren’t related to the conversation I wanted to have are at least somewhat negative for me, and on the margin make me want to post somewhere else or not at all.
I usually prefer getting feedback on writing style/quality
Ideas vary in terms of “early stage” vs “late stage”, and generally in the early stage I care more about people understanding my frame, and in the later stages I think it makes sense for people to critique it in more detail, from a variety of frames.
My sense of “who is responsible for emotional state” is sort of complicated and maybe beyond scope for this comment. But also, I don’t think I usually run into this problem on my own posts, in part because I try to design posts such that disagreements play out in a way I consider productive.