Okay, firstly, thanks for the post and the response!
Are you saying that we can prefer judgement over non-judgement, it’s just that NVC predicts that this will lead to ineffective communication and/or damage the relationship? ( I had conversations like this in mind when I asked about moral truth). I’m still confused about how it distinguishes between evaluations and judgements, but I get that they are both part of the map and not the territory (although the map exists within the territory).
Evaluation and judgement are the same. What matters is how you communicate the thing.
You don’t have to like everyone but it’s probably healthy to recognize your subjective judgement is not universal. “I think you are too tall for my liking” is my judgement. You don’t have to agree. But it would probably be unreasonable to say “you are too tall.” alone.
Okay, firstly, thanks for the post and the response!
Are you saying that we can prefer judgement over non-judgement, it’s just that NVC predicts that this will lead to ineffective communication and/or damage the relationship? ( I had conversations like this in mind when I asked about moral truth). I’m still confused about how it distinguishes between evaluations and judgements, but I get that they are both part of the map and not the territory (although the map exists within the territory).
Evaluation and judgement are the same. What matters is how you communicate the thing.
You don’t have to like everyone but it’s probably healthy to recognize your subjective judgement is not universal. “I think you are too tall for my liking” is my judgement. You don’t have to agree. But it would probably be unreasonable to say “you are too tall.” alone.