(In addition to this not-seeming-true-across-the-board… also, literally nobody has ever made this claim to me. The entire reason I’m hypothesizing it is because this post suggested it, and it made sense given my model of how my/friends’ cognition seems to work. So, IMO the slightly-aggro comment here is just basically wrong? Unless you’ve specifically seen people claim this?)
That is what someone might claim, yes, to avoid losing face by too visibly caring about losing face or attempting to manipulate it.
Sure, that’s a thing that can happen. I’m moderately confident the other thing is a relatively common thing to happen as well.
(In addition to this not-seeming-true-across-the-board… also, literally nobody has ever made this claim to me. The entire reason I’m hypothesizing it is because this post suggested it, and it made sense given my model of how my/friends’ cognition seems to work. So, IMO the slightly-aggro comment here is just basically wrong? Unless you’ve specifically seen people claim this?)