My only question is, why privilege your “natural state” so much?
I don’t; I value my sober state, and I already addressed why at the beginning of the article. I don’t really see anything to add here. And anyway, having sex is one of the most natural things, so trying to moderate it wouldn’t really fall under a naturalistic fallacy.
For example, why would I think my anger at my partner is more authentic than how I would feel if we had sex?
This was pretty much addressed in the blogpost already, with the 4 key points I extracted from the article on toxic relationships. Sex can kind of wirehead you to feel close to someone, regardless of if they’re a good partner or not. I do feel like this cocktail of hormones could tie me into a relationship that I wouldn’t actually want if I stopped having sex with this person for a while and really thought about us—but I agree that “authenticity” is a vague, subjective concept, and you make of it what you will.
If your partner hurt you or was disrespectful to you in anyway, you’d be right to feel anger at them. I know some people use sex as a band-aid in their relationship, but that never addresses the underlying issues and doesn’t seem to work in the long run.
I think saying “everything in moderation” is a really unsatisfying answer, but it’s true here. Sex can warp your judgment but it’s also a need for most people.
I do agree here. I never once mention in my text that people should abstain from sex completely, and I far from want that for myself. I specifically say “We might also want to refrain from sex in some situations”. The last 3-4 paragraphs point to idea of how one could decide to navigate their sex life if they want to continue having sex but avoid some of the drawbacks of it.
I don’t; I value my sober state, and I already addressed why at the beginning of the article. I don’t really see anything to add here. And anyway, having sex is one of the most natural things, so trying to moderate it wouldn’t really fall under a naturalistic fallacy.
This was pretty much addressed in the blogpost already, with the 4 key points I extracted from the article on toxic relationships. Sex can kind of wirehead you to feel close to someone, regardless of if they’re a good partner or not. I do feel like this cocktail of hormones could tie me into a relationship that I wouldn’t actually want if I stopped having sex with this person for a while and really thought about us—but I agree that “authenticity” is a vague, subjective concept, and you make of it what you will.
If your partner hurt you or was disrespectful to you in anyway, you’d be right to feel anger at them. I know some people use sex as a band-aid in their relationship, but that never addresses the underlying issues and doesn’t seem to work in the long run.
I do agree here. I never once mention in my text that people should abstain from sex completely, and I far from want that for myself. I specifically say “We might also want to refrain from sex in some situations”. The last 3-4 paragraphs point to idea of how one could decide to navigate their sex life if they want to continue having sex but avoid some of the drawbacks of it.