Well, I’m not worried about the subject in the original post. I know that will repair itself, I just wish it’d happen a lot faster. The question of hope referred to your original statement of getting back to normal in general and to the damage from having a partner with BPD more specifically.
Some concerns:
Escaping tremendous guilt and guilt about being happy.
Reestablishing my values and integrity.
Reestablishing my sense of self and identity.
Building my self-esteem.
Not behaving like someone with shellshock in my next relationship.
Gabriel, have you read about BPD before? I’m getting the impression that either I’m doing a poor job of communicating the scope of my previous situation.
Sketchy view of BPD from reading about it—it involves extreme swings from “you’re the most wonderful person in the world” to “everything about you is horrible”.
Yes, at some point a therapist would be a idea. And my main reason would be that I suffered from depression for many years until entering into this relationship ironically. So I’m used to seemingly intractable mental issues.
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To put it bluntly, in not being permanently fucked up.
EDIT: Whoops, I think I forgot a comma. I was asking how to be realistic and optimistic at the same time.
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Well, I’m not worried about the subject in the original post. I know that will repair itself, I just wish it’d happen a lot faster. The question of hope referred to your original statement of getting back to normal in general and to the damage from having a partner with BPD more specifically.
Some concerns: Escaping tremendous guilt and guilt about being happy. Reestablishing my values and integrity. Reestablishing my sense of self and identity. Building my self-esteem. Not behaving like someone with shellshock in my next relationship.
Gabriel, have you read about BPD before? I’m getting the impression that either I’m doing a poor job of communicating the scope of my previous situation.
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Sketchy view of BPD from reading about it—it involves extreme swings from “you’re the most wonderful person in the world” to “everything about you is horrible”.
Yes, at some point a therapist would be a idea. And my main reason would be that I suffered from depression for many years until entering into this relationship ironically. So I’m used to seemingly intractable mental issues.