Well, I’m not worried about the subject in the original post. I know that will repair itself, I just wish it’d happen a lot faster. The question of hope referred to your original statement of getting back to normal in general and to the damage from having a partner with BPD more specifically.
Some concerns:
Escaping tremendous guilt and guilt about being happy.
Reestablishing my values and integrity.
Reestablishing my sense of self and identity.
Building my self-esteem.
Not behaving like someone with shellshock in my next relationship.
Gabriel, have you read about BPD before? I’m getting the impression that either I’m doing a poor job of communicating the scope of my previous situation.
Sketchy view of BPD from reading about it—it involves extreme swings from “you’re the most wonderful person in the world” to “everything about you is horrible”.
Yes, at some point a therapist would be a idea. And my main reason would be that I suffered from depression for many years until entering into this relationship ironically. So I’m used to seemingly intractable mental issues.
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Any advice on maintaining hope in the same stroke?
The damage was...severe. She had Borderline personality disorder
Looks like you thought you had a Manic Pixie Dream Girl but wound up with a Yandere instead.
I recommend a good dose of TV Tropes until your mind settles.
Chrono......that is so accurate it scares me. Also the thought of your suggestion has made me smile all day.
(Why do people spell my name with an “h”?)
Because “chrono” is much more common than “crono”.
People get my name wrong too because of availability bias.
On a related note, I really shot myself in the foot with this username.
Every time I let it go by without comment, I feel like a bit of a fraud.
Because of Chrono Trigger
True… but the main character of that game is named “Crono” with no h.
(Don’t worry, misspelling my screen name won’t get you Gannon Banned.)
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To put it bluntly, in not being permanently fucked up.
EDIT: Whoops, I think I forgot a comma. I was asking how to be realistic and optimistic at the same time.
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Well, I’m not worried about the subject in the original post. I know that will repair itself, I just wish it’d happen a lot faster. The question of hope referred to your original statement of getting back to normal in general and to the damage from having a partner with BPD more specifically.
Some concerns: Escaping tremendous guilt and guilt about being happy. Reestablishing my values and integrity. Reestablishing my sense of self and identity. Building my self-esteem. Not behaving like someone with shellshock in my next relationship.
Gabriel, have you read about BPD before? I’m getting the impression that either I’m doing a poor job of communicating the scope of my previous situation.
.
Sketchy view of BPD from reading about it—it involves extreme swings from “you’re the most wonderful person in the world” to “everything about you is horrible”.
Yes, at some point a therapist would be a idea. And my main reason would be that I suffered from depression for many years until entering into this relationship ironically. So I’m used to seemingly intractable mental issues.