But as to signaling… I asked you if you thought it would be worth it to torture one person for 50 years for 3^^^^3 people to have mind-boggling good sex, and you had to consider for a moment before the other guy blurted out immediately “Of Course!!!” He was clearly turned on by the convo- and you were in lala land… I also offered to take my shirt off at some point in the evening… Was I really being all that subtle???
Actually, yeah, you were being too subtle, at least in that situation.
A lot of people just talk about sexual stuff all the time (or at least all the time in certain contexts), as part of their conversational style and/or because it grants a lot of steering power over the conversation. Someone who didn’t know you might just assume that you like talking about sex, rather than that you doing it on that particular purpose for flirtatious reasons.
Also, as has been pointed out above, nerdy guys are typically not as good at picking up social cues as guys in general. Poor social instincts are part of what makes nerds nerdy.
But as to signaling… I asked you if you thought it would be worth it to torture one person for 50 years for 3^^^^3 people to have mind-boggling good sex, and you had to consider for a moment before the other guy blurted out immediately “Of Course!!!” He was clearly turned on by the convo- and you were in lala land… I also offered to take my shirt off at some point in the evening… Was I really being all that subtle???
Actually, yeah, you were being too subtle, at least in that situation.
A lot of people just talk about sexual stuff all the time (or at least all the time in certain contexts), as part of their conversational style and/or because it grants a lot of steering power over the conversation. Someone who didn’t know you might just assume that you like talking about sex, rather than that you doing it on that particular purpose for flirtatious reasons.
Also, as has been pointed out above, nerdy guys are typically not as good at picking up social cues as guys in general. Poor social instincts are part of what makes nerds nerdy.
I think that the men one is likley to find on LW/OB, are more likley than average to have serious problems with detecting flirting sometimes.