Doom circles seem hard to do outside of CFAR workshops: If I just pick the ~7 people who I most want to be in my doom circle, this might be the best doom circle for me, but it won’t be the best doom circle for them, since they will mostly not know each other very well.
So you might think that doing doom “circles” one-on-one would be best. But doom circles also have a sort of ceremony / spacing / high-cost-ness to them that cuts the other way: More people means more “weight” or something. And there are probably other considerations determining the optimal size.
So if you wanted to have a not-at-the-end-of-a-workshop doom circle, should you find the largest clique with some minimum relationship strength in your social graph?
I’m not sure relationship-strength on a single axis is quite the right factor. At the end of a workshop, the participants don’t have that much familiarity, if you measure it by hours spent talking; but those hours will tend to have been focused on the sort of information that makes a Doom circle work, ie, people’s life strategies and the things they’re struggling with. If I naively tried to gather a group with strong relationship-strength, I expect many of the people I invited would find out that they didn’t know each other as well as they thought they did.
Doom circles seem hard to do outside of CFAR workshops: If I just pick the ~7 people who I most want to be in my doom circle, this might be the best doom circle for me, but it won’t be the best doom circle for them, since they will mostly not know each other very well.
So you might think that doing doom “circles” one-on-one would be best. But doom circles also have a sort of ceremony / spacing / high-cost-ness to them that cuts the other way: More people means more “weight” or something. And there are probably other considerations determining the optimal size.
So if you wanted to have a not-at-the-end-of-a-workshop doom circle, should you find the largest clique with some minimum relationship strength in your social graph?
I’m not sure relationship-strength on a single axis is quite the right factor. At the end of a workshop, the participants don’t have that much familiarity, if you measure it by hours spent talking; but those hours will tend to have been focused on the sort of information that makes a Doom circle work, ie, people’s life strategies and the things they’re struggling with. If I naively tried to gather a group with strong relationship-strength, I expect many of the people I invited would find out that they didn’t know each other as well as they thought they did.