Unfortunately, victimhood and abuse still exist. I can not speak to Aella’s character or intentions because I do not know her personally. But this comment definitely shows me more about your own feelings of discomfort and resentment towards a woman for holding more influence and using her social influence to speak to her view of the world including how patterns like “frame control” can be harmful.
I do know that speaking to these experiences is often not about “playing the Victim card” it is about speaking the truth of one’s experience and bringing attention to things, people, patterns who are causing harm. It takes a tremendous amount of courage and cares to challenge and speak to patterns of abuse in communities that often silence and punish those who speak out. We live in a time period where people (finally) feel freer to speak up about abuse—AND still, these simple acts of courage are inevitably met with people who want to disparage your character and judgments like “you’re playing the victim card.” From where I am sitting, what is it that you think Aella really has to gain here? Maybe some level of recognition within a relatively small community for speaking about a widely known and discussed the matter of community safety and harm that’s impacted a substantial number of people. My understanding of this post is that it is meant to inform and identify patterns of “frame control” that are often difficult to identify.
While this community may value a particular style of dialogue that is often inclined to strip away certain ways of relating there is obviously a need for community dialogue and discourse; and greater capacity to engage on a relational level with difficult conversations. While using an object-level format can certainly have its benefits I also think it’s far more honest to name one’s story and relationship to an issue rather than trying to utilize an intellectualized and detached response (which is fine and seems to be the norm here) that doesn’t acknowledge one’s personal location, identity, and biases. I see that the OP is adopting a common framework used in this community here—but also in various points within the post and elsewhere is quite transparent about her position and agenda within the broader conversation (re: Leverage) and where she comes from. How many people do you know that have this same level of transparency in their online presence?
Usually but not always by the time something like the Leverage situation happens or other reports of harmful patterns of negligence or abuse in a community or organization make it to an online forum there has been a longstanding history involving multiple people and attempts to address issues directly.
Speaking up personally about community issues of harm is almost ALWAYS a risky move most people don’t have the guts to do or the willingness to set aside their own personal concerns of reputation and privilege for even when they are well aware of issues that are negatively impacting and/or causing harm to others. Are you unfamiliar with the concepts of advocacy, leveraging one’s privilege, and allyship?
Unfortunately, victimhood and abuse still exist. I can not speak to Aella’s character or intentions because I do not know her personally. But this comment definitely shows me more about your own feelings of discomfort and resentment towards a woman for holding more influence and using her social influence to speak to her view of the world including how patterns like “frame control” can be harmful.
I do know that speaking to these experiences is often not about “playing the Victim card” it is about speaking the truth of one’s experience and bringing attention to things, people, patterns who are causing harm. It takes a tremendous amount of courage and cares to challenge and speak to patterns of abuse in communities that often silence and punish those who speak out. We live in a time period where people (finally) feel freer to speak up about abuse—AND still, these simple acts of courage are inevitably met with people who want to disparage your character and judgments like “you’re playing the victim card.” From where I am sitting, what is it that you think Aella really has to gain here? Maybe some level of recognition within a relatively small community for speaking about a widely known and discussed the matter of community safety and harm that’s impacted a substantial number of people. My understanding of this post is that it is meant to inform and identify patterns of “frame control” that are often difficult to identify.
While this community may value a particular style of dialogue that is often inclined to strip away certain ways of relating there is obviously a need for community dialogue and discourse; and greater capacity to engage on a relational level with difficult conversations. While using an object-level format can certainly have its benefits I also think it’s far more honest to name one’s story and relationship to an issue rather than trying to utilize an intellectualized and detached response (which is fine and seems to be the norm here) that doesn’t acknowledge one’s personal location, identity, and biases. I see that the OP is adopting a common framework used in this community here—but also in various points within the post and elsewhere is quite transparent about her position and agenda within the broader conversation (re: Leverage) and where she comes from. How many people do you know that have this same level of transparency in their online presence?
Usually but not always by the time something like the Leverage situation happens or other reports of harmful patterns of negligence or abuse in a community or organization make it to an online forum there has been a longstanding history involving multiple people and attempts to address issues directly.
Speaking up personally about community issues of harm is almost ALWAYS a risky move most people don’t have the guts to do or the willingness to set aside their own personal concerns of reputation and privilege for even when they are well aware of issues that are negatively impacting and/or causing harm to others. Are you unfamiliar with the concepts of advocacy, leveraging one’s privilege, and allyship?