I mentioned “gold digging” as an ideological label, not to imply that being attracted to high-status suitors is the same as gold-digging. Personally, what turns you on cannot be unethical. I wouldn’t judge a woman who has more crushes on captains than skippers or a man who has more crushes on large-breasted women. So if “gold-digging” implies marrying someone for money, in the absence of attraction, that is a different issue. No comment on if gold-digging is ethical, but its a separate question.
This distinction between preferences and behaviors helps escape the ideological traps of discussing romance.
I mentioned “gold digging” as an ideological label, not to imply that being attracted to high-status suitors is the same as gold-digging. Personally, what turns you on cannot be unethical. I wouldn’t judge a woman who has more crushes on captains than skippers or a man who has more crushes on large-breasted women. So if “gold-digging” implies marrying someone for money, in the absence of attraction, that is a different issue. No comment on if gold-digging is ethical, but its a separate question.
This distinction between preferences and behaviors helps escape the ideological traps of discussing romance.