I have never been good at this stuff, so there is not much I can say about this, but I wonder how is “volunteering at homeless shelters” compatible with “short-term dating”. (I assume you are not trying to date homeless women. I also assume that women who try to find a date usually don’t go to homeless shelters.) Volunteering selects for traits you probably find attractive, such as altruism. On the other hand, human mind works on associations, so there is a risk the attractive girls you meet there will associate you with homelessness.
I have poured all my conniving, my over-thinking and my horniness into this document.
Then this is probably not the right website to publish it. (Unfortunately, I cannot point you towards a more appropriate place.)
Why assume that women who want to date don’t go to homeless shelters? Women and men both get the same advice to put yourself out there, try new things, and volunteer as a way to find a date. And some women who are there for other reasons will also be interested in dating.
1. Obviously I’m not trying to date the homeless women, for plenty of reasons.
2. Why do you assume women who volunteer at a homeless shelter prefer long-term relationships. Is the argument “good girls volunteer” and “good girls want to get married”, seems a bit like availability bias. I wouldn’t predict off of that logic, in my experience women are more diverse than that.
3. It’s a reference to LOTR. I’m not sorry that I overthink things, I’m not sorry that I experience horniness. LessWrong isn’t about pretending we are all paragons of virtue that only experience the “good” emotions. It’s about improving our map of the territory so that we can interact with the world better.
Also, being promiscuous is not something to be ashamed of.
I have never been good at this stuff, so there is not much I can say about this, but I wonder how is “volunteering at homeless shelters” compatible with “short-term dating”. (I assume you are not trying to date homeless women. I also assume that women who try to find a date usually don’t go to homeless shelters.) Volunteering selects for traits you probably find attractive, such as altruism. On the other hand, human mind works on associations, so there is a risk the attractive girls you meet there will associate you with homelessness.
Then this is probably not the right website to publish it. (Unfortunately, I cannot point you towards a more appropriate place.)
Why assume that women who want to date don’t go to homeless shelters? Women and men both get the same advice to put yourself out there, try new things, and volunteer as a way to find a date. And some women who are there for other reasons will also be interested in dating.
I’m not entirely certain about that assumption, to be honest.
1. Obviously I’m not trying to date the homeless women, for plenty of reasons.
2. Why do you assume women who volunteer at a homeless shelter prefer long-term relationships. Is the argument “good girls volunteer” and “good girls want to get married”, seems a bit like availability bias. I wouldn’t predict off of that logic, in my experience women are more diverse than that.
3. It’s a reference to LOTR. I’m not sorry that I overthink things, I’m not sorry that I experience horniness. LessWrong isn’t about pretending we are all paragons of virtue that only experience the “good” emotions. It’s about improving our map of the territory so that we can interact with the world better.
Also, being promiscuous is not something to be ashamed of.