Writing my dating profile was a good use of my time before I shared it with anybody. I had an insufficiently strong sense of what kind of relationship I want and why other people might want to have it with me. The exercise of “make a freeform document capturing all of that” was very helpful for focusing my mind towards figuring it out—much moreso than the exercise of “fill in dating app textboxes in a way that seems competitive for the swiping game”. (This is just a special case of “writing an essay teaches you a lot”—something I’d like to take advantage of more often)
It took about 1 workday of writing effort to put mine together, and it’s resulted in 2 high-quality dates (order of 10k micromarriages) in the past 5 months. This is competitive with the rest of my current tools for turning effort into dating prospects.
Writing my dating profile was a good use of my time before I shared it with anybody. I had an insufficiently strong sense of what kind of relationship I want and why other people might want to have it with me. The exercise of “make a freeform document capturing all of that” was very helpful for focusing my mind towards figuring it out—much moreso than the exercise of “fill in dating app textboxes in a way that seems competitive for the swiping game”. (This is just a special case of “writing an essay teaches you a lot”—something I’d like to take advantage of more often)
It took about 1 workday of writing effort to put mine together, and it’s resulted in 2 high-quality dates (order of 10k micromarriages) in the past 5 months. This is competitive with the rest of my current tools for turning effort into dating prospects.