no it feels scarier! I think if I’m interacting with a real live human being in person I basically always instinctively worry about what they think of me even if there’s no strong reason to, and higher uncertainty about what they think of me is more worry-causing; with friends I can somewhat lean on “well they are continuing to be friends with me so they must not be judging me too badly”, and also friends have often disclosed similar vulnerable things to me which makes it easier (I am somewhat more hesitant to share productivity details with friends who I feel are way more productive than me). also “entirely outside my circles” is likely to come with “high inferential gap about various stuff I care about”. I don’t think this all is definitely insurmountable but surmounting it is a currently slightly mysterious first step
(I think “figure out how to tolerate talking to an LLM” might be an easier inroad actually, though that’s differently aversive for me)
no it feels scarier! I think if I’m interacting with a real live human being in person I basically always instinctively worry about what they think of me even if there’s no strong reason to, and higher uncertainty about what they think of me is more worry-causing; with friends I can somewhat lean on “well they are continuing to be friends with me so they must not be judging me too badly”, and also friends have often disclosed similar vulnerable things to me which makes it easier (I am somewhat more hesitant to share productivity details with friends who I feel are way more productive than me). also “entirely outside my circles” is likely to come with “high inferential gap about various stuff I care about”. I don’t think this all is definitely insurmountable but surmounting it is a currently slightly mysterious first step
(I think “figure out how to tolerate talking to an LLM” might be an easier inroad actually, though that’s differently aversive for me)