I found the Coming of Age series to be both self-indulgent and quite dull, and I think that it’s very difficult to use yourself as an example of vice or virtue without running into one or both of those issues. I also find that I (more-or-less automatically) downgrade an author’s ethos by a lot when he’s talking about himself as an illustrative example. But for this one, it’s the skeeviness factor that dominates — it’s just plain creepy to hear about your love life as a source of telling anecdotes. And that’s distracting.
Polyamory may be great, but the right way to promote it is not by slipping into a post the implication that it’s the endpoint of rational thinking about romance. Which is what this reads as, whether you intended it to or not. If you want to advocate polyamory here (and honestly, I’m not sure that Less Wrong is the right place to do so), you should devote an entire post to it, and set forth clear arguments as to why it’s the better option, rather than presuming it in your advice.
The Sequences do not consist of Eliezer promoting himself as a master rationalist, nor do they assume that you already think he is. He argues for certain positions, and the reader comes to believe that he is a good rationalist as a result of being convinced that the positions he holds are rational. The tone of this is much closer to the motivational-seminar pitch of “I turned my life around using these three simple principles”, with the additional difficulty that we’re just taking your word for your romantic success. It’s not credible.
In the particular subject of dating and relationships, for anything practical or prescriptive, I actually find it really valuable when people talk about their own experiences. It helps me evaluate if (a) they are basing their conclusions on real world experience, (b) their outlook is similar to mine.
Ah, okay. Yes, if you don’t like the personal-story approach in general then, well… this post isn’t for you. :)
Your contrast between my post and the sequences makes some sense, except that the point of the post wasn’t particularly to argue for those rationality lessons. The posts arguing for those lessons are generally the ones I link to when describing each lesson.
I found the Coming of Age series to be both self-indulgent and quite dull, and I think that it’s very difficult to use yourself as an example of vice or virtue without running into one or both of those issues. I also find that I (more-or-less automatically) downgrade an author’s ethos by a lot when he’s talking about himself as an illustrative example. But for this one, it’s the skeeviness factor that dominates — it’s just plain creepy to hear about your love life as a source of telling anecdotes. And that’s distracting.
Polyamory may be great, but the right way to promote it is not by slipping into a post the implication that it’s the endpoint of rational thinking about romance. Which is what this reads as, whether you intended it to or not. If you want to advocate polyamory here (and honestly, I’m not sure that Less Wrong is the right place to do so), you should devote an entire post to it, and set forth clear arguments as to why it’s the better option, rather than presuming it in your advice.
The Sequences do not consist of Eliezer promoting himself as a master rationalist, nor do they assume that you already think he is. He argues for certain positions, and the reader comes to believe that he is a good rationalist as a result of being convinced that the positions he holds are rational. The tone of this is much closer to the motivational-seminar pitch of “I turned my life around using these three simple principles”, with the additional difficulty that we’re just taking your word for your romantic success. It’s not credible.
In the particular subject of dating and relationships, for anything practical or prescriptive, I actually find it really valuable when people talk about their own experiences. It helps me evaluate if (a) they are basing their conclusions on real world experience, (b) their outlook is similar to mine.
Ah, okay. Yes, if you don’t like the personal-story approach in general then, well… this post isn’t for you. :)
Your contrast between my post and the sequences makes some sense, except that the point of the post wasn’t particularly to argue for those rationality lessons. The posts arguing for those lessons are generally the ones I link to when describing each lesson.