In my case...I think the instinct was there, but was effectively missing a lot of the time because it was being drowned out by the much louder filter in my head, the one interpreting things in a much more rigid, word-based, “literal” way. The nerdy way, as I’ve come to think of it.
I think that was the result of my search for truth. I spent time trying to nail down exactly what things meant and so on. This interfered with my thinking about things like “what will they think I mean?” and “what do they think that word means” stuff since I had formed beliefs about the true meaning of their words and stuff.
The obvious way in my case would be to do what I’m doing here, talk in my native tongue about the foreign one I should learn.
A powerful single piece of information would have been to talk about system 1 and 2 and talk over the specific times each fails, and how I should learn to be instinctive and reactive in many social and physical activities.
Another useful thing would be to watch exactly the kind of media I once found pointless and make explicit the rules going on. Chick flicks and girl TV are great for this.
The Improv and the Theatre text would have helped, as also The Gervais Principle series.
In my case...I think the instinct was there, but was effectively missing a lot of the time because it was being drowned out by the much louder filter in my head, the one interpreting things in a much more rigid, word-based, “literal” way. The nerdy way, as I’ve come to think of it.
I think that was the result of my search for truth. I spent time trying to nail down exactly what things meant and so on. This interfered with my thinking about things like “what will they think I mean?” and “what do they think that word means” stuff since I had formed beliefs about the true meaning of their words and stuff.
Can you think of any tricks that would’ve helped your past self wake up to its “animal side” earlier?
The obvious way in my case would be to do what I’m doing here, talk in my native tongue about the foreign one I should learn.
A powerful single piece of information would have been to talk about system 1 and 2 and talk over the specific times each fails, and how I should learn to be instinctive and reactive in many social and physical activities.
Another useful thing would be to watch exactly the kind of media I once found pointless and make explicit the rules going on. Chick flicks and girl TV are great for this.
The Improv and the Theatre text would have helped, as also The Gervais Principle series.
Maybe the next step for you is to learn to feel “animal side” feelings without analyzing them. E.g. get drunk and watch this video =)