“If I can’t easily answer the question or refine my self-model relative to the provided suggestion, I assume that the description is accurate.”
To be frank, I’m skeptical of that heuristic. For “love language,” I literally could not orient myself correctly to answer any of the questions, nor could I honestly describe myself as really matching any of those categories. But I’m quite confident that that doesn’t mean that they’re all true, it just means that none of them apply to me!
Well, note that I investigated the questions associated with the language that I did feel applied to me. If none of them seemed right even to a first approximation I would have assumed that the love languages thing didn’t make much sense or didn’t work for me in particular. My point was that once I’ve picked one that seems basically right, I don’t then cherry-pick subcomponents without a good reason.
“If I can’t easily answer the question or refine my self-model relative to the provided suggestion, I assume that the description is accurate.”
To be frank, I’m skeptical of that heuristic. For “love language,” I literally could not orient myself correctly to answer any of the questions, nor could I honestly describe myself as really matching any of those categories. But I’m quite confident that that doesn’t mean that they’re all true, it just means that none of them apply to me!
Well, note that I investigated the questions associated with the language that I did feel applied to me. If none of them seemed right even to a first approximation I would have assumed that the love languages thing didn’t make much sense or didn’t work for me in particular. My point was that once I’ve picked one that seems basically right, I don’t then cherry-pick subcomponents without a good reason.