Good point. The question I use to identify perceptual blindspots is best suited to ask people who are interested in your genuine well-being. Asking a toxic ex-girlfriend is probably not going to be a productive conversation...
It was outside the scope of the original post and cut for space, but I’ll add that these types of conversations operate best when they are a collaboration. Even when I’m the one receiving constructive criticism, I try to help them make the best argument. Then, we can determine together whether it’s an accurate assessment. Regardless of its veracity, you may discover a new way that people perceive you that maybe you weren’t aware of before.
Good point. The question I use to identify perceptual blindspots is best suited to ask people who are interested in your genuine well-being. Asking a toxic ex-girlfriend is probably not going to be a productive conversation...
It was outside the scope of the original post and cut for space, but I’ll add that these types of conversations operate best when they are a collaboration. Even when I’m the one receiving constructive criticism, I try to help them make the best argument. Then, we can determine together whether it’s an accurate assessment. Regardless of its veracity, you may discover a new way that people perceive you that maybe you weren’t aware of before.