Most of them will tell you that you can’t think logically when trying to understand women and that their brain is wired differently. So they are well aware of this gap between the sexes.
Most of them will tell you that you can’t think logically when trying to understand women
This is an excellent illustration of Eliezer’s point. Someone who doesn’t follow the same patterns of thought that they do obviously “doesn’t think logically.” The begin from the assumption that they are logical, and therefore anyone who doesn’t think in a way which is clear to them must be illogical.
Everyone is always logical in their own mind. They just begin at different premises and apply different criteria from each other. Knowing this, you can almost always backtrack from someone’s “illogical” conclusion, infer what their premises could have been that led to it, and understand them better afterwards. I find this an incredibly useful tool for understanding other human beings.
Addendum regarding pick-up artist:
Most of them will tell you that you can’t think logically when trying to understand women and that their brain is wired differently. So they are well aware of this gap between the sexes.
This is an excellent illustration of Eliezer’s point. Someone who doesn’t follow the same patterns of thought that they do obviously “doesn’t think logically.” The begin from the assumption that they are logical, and therefore anyone who doesn’t think in a way which is clear to them must be illogical.
Everyone is always logical in their own mind. They just begin at different premises and apply different criteria from each other. Knowing this, you can almost always backtrack from someone’s “illogical” conclusion, infer what their premises could have been that led to it, and understand them better afterwards. I find this an incredibly useful tool for understanding other human beings.