Laura ABJ: In Netherlands there’s apparently an “escort service” targeted towards insecure virgin male nerds that does not offer a sex only service but some more comprehensive training as well. Of course the three hour minimum is ridiculously short for building relevant social skills but otherwise I think it’s basically what you suggested. link
Anyway, the sex part of such a training should be the easier part. What would me more difficult is building the confidence to initiate and to appropriately respond to romantic and sexual contact with the relevant social skills. I read some of those linked materials from pickup artists and a large portion of them didn’t describe stuff I’d consider brainwashing, but how to better understand the target’s intentions from non-explicit cues which one could see at least to some extent as rather basic social skills.
With regards to increasing one’s tolerance for underconfidence, might it not be a sensible investment and mutually beneficial under some circumstances to take such a person and build up their confidence?
It would be interesting to see some demographics on OB readers. How about setting up a few polls?
As to suggestions on what could turn off female readers of OB, what Robin Hanson asked for seemed to me more like “We like what we are doing now, so we don’t want to do more things to attract female readers, but is there something in our way of doing our thing that should be eliminated or changed?” than “What more could we do to attract female readers?” in which case the answer “Give a list of don’ts, not dos.” is perfectly legitimate, though if that is the case, unnecessary aggression could have been avoided by being more articulate about it.
Laura ABJ: In Netherlands there’s apparently an “escort service” targeted towards insecure virgin male nerds that does not offer a sex only service but some more comprehensive training as well. Of course the three hour minimum is ridiculously short for building relevant social skills but otherwise I think it’s basically what you suggested. link
Anyway, the sex part of such a training should be the easier part. What would me more difficult is building the confidence to initiate and to appropriately respond to romantic and sexual contact with the relevant social skills. I read some of those linked materials from pickup artists and a large portion of them didn’t describe stuff I’d consider brainwashing, but how to better understand the target’s intentions from non-explicit cues which one could see at least to some extent as rather basic social skills.
With regards to increasing one’s tolerance for underconfidence, might it not be a sensible investment and mutually beneficial under some circumstances to take such a person and build up their confidence?
It would be interesting to see some demographics on OB readers. How about setting up a few polls?
As to suggestions on what could turn off female readers of OB, what Robin Hanson asked for seemed to me more like “We like what we are doing now, so we don’t want to do more things to attract female readers, but is there something in our way of doing our thing that should be eliminated or changed?” than “What more could we do to attract female readers?” in which case the answer “Give a list of don’ts, not dos.” is perfectly legitimate, though if that is the case, unnecessary aggression could have been avoided by being more articulate about it.