z.m.: I find this idea of romance as a resources-for-sex transaction unspeakably ugly. I conceive of romance as a relationship of mutual love and respect between unique individuals. There are those who say I can’t really believe that, that I am only signaling.
What many of us say is that you do really believe it, but that overall your actions are better explained in the other terms. You are built to think one way and act another, and to not see the contradictions very well.
z.m.: I find this idea of romance as a resources-for-sex transaction unspeakably ugly. I conceive of romance as a relationship of mutual love and respect between unique individuals. There are those who say I can’t really believe that, that I am only signaling.
What many of us say is that you do really believe it, but that overall your actions are better explained in the other terms. You are built to think one way and act another, and to not see the contradictions very well.