I am female, and (to a large extent) my experience agrees with Submitter E’s. I’m glad to see this posted here, because after reading the other LW and Women posts, I had begun to suspect that I was a complete outlier, and that I couldn’t use my own experiences as a reference point for other women’s at all.
This relates to something I’ve been concerned about in regards to social justice discussions—the discussions actively discourage people from saying that they aren’t being hurt even though they’re in a group which (probably) gets hurt more than the other group on the same axis.
While I can see discouraging people from saying “I’m not getting hurt, therefore getting hurt almost never happens/doesn’t matter”, leaving out single data points about not getting hurt leads to another version of not knowing what’s going on.
I am female, and (to a large extent) my experience agrees with Submitter E’s. I’m glad to see this posted here, because after reading the other LW and Women posts, I had begun to suspect that I was a complete outlier, and that I couldn’t use my own experiences as a reference point for other women’s at all.
This relates to something I’ve been concerned about in regards to social justice discussions—the discussions actively discourage people from saying that they aren’t being hurt even though they’re in a group which (probably) gets hurt more than the other group on the same axis.
While I can see discouraging people from saying “I’m not getting hurt, therefore getting hurt almost never happens/doesn’t matter”, leaving out single data points about not getting hurt leads to another version of not knowing what’s going on.
Expressing truths which don’t benefit the cause is seen as betraying it.
Reading both of your comments I am no longer confused although I still think that E was being a little self-consciously self-indulgent.