Well, I am not a masochist. I don’t like experiencing pain. Do you? ;-)
Yet, I experienced lot’s of painful moments in my life, as I guess everyone. And I mean both physical and psychological. Now, I am not traumatised by these memories. I am not trying to get rid of them, why would I? They are often valuable lessons and they help me better calibrate what to expect from the future experiences.
For many, I am glad they happened. I believe that some amount of painful experiences is good for people to experience. Pain makes you grow.
For some, I don’t think the value for pain was good enough and if I could choose, I would rather not experience them. But, does that mean I should wish to get rid of the value (memory) now that the price is paid (pain?)? That would be silly, wouldn’t it?
I could choose, I would rather not experience them. But, does that mean I should wish to get rid of the value (memory) now that the price is paid (pain?)?
Well, yeah. The price (of remembering/re-experiencing the pain occasionally) is ongoing. It’s not as immediate or intense as the original experience, but it’s still there. My question is about the VALUE you get from the memory—it’s hard for me to model that this value is positive, but not positive enough to avoid wishing the experience hadn’t happened..
Well, I guess that our memories work differently then. I truly don’t have a single memory that I would wish not to have. I see them as value. I don’t really feel that I am paying any price just by having them.
Well, I am not a masochist. I don’t like experiencing pain. Do you? ;-)
Yet, I experienced lot’s of painful moments in my life, as I guess everyone. And I mean both physical and psychological. Now, I am not traumatised by these memories. I am not trying to get rid of them, why would I? They are often valuable lessons and they help me better calibrate what to expect from the future experiences.
For many, I am glad they happened. I believe that some amount of painful experiences is good for people to experience. Pain makes you grow.
For some, I don’t think the value for pain was good enough and if I could choose, I would rather not experience them. But, does that mean I should wish to get rid of the value (memory) now that the price is paid (pain?)? That would be silly, wouldn’t it?
Well, yeah. The price (of remembering/re-experiencing the pain occasionally) is ongoing. It’s not as immediate or intense as the original experience, but it’s still there. My question is about the VALUE you get from the memory—it’s hard for me to model that this value is positive, but not positive enough to avoid wishing the experience hadn’t happened..
Well, I guess that our memories work differently then. I truly don’t have a single memory that I would wish not to have. I see them as value. I don’t really feel that I am paying any price just by having them.