This might be an artifact from my social circles and I don’t doubt that nicer PUAs might exist on the internet. However people having negative PUA experiences in real life affects how the label is seen by different kinds of people.
And that can be relevant if the project wants to attract others than the single-hetero-male crowd.
But it seems like many men on the hinges of the social circle seem to get an “it is ok to lie to get sex because no harm done in that to the women, and it is their fault for not giving enough sex in the beginning.” from various PUA sources.
Personally I am quite interested in ideas about open honest communication as good relationship practices and the whole “relationship management by white lies” is quite the opposite.
Then there are the ideas from Roissy etc that are directly misogynic
I absolutely do not want this to be limited to the “single-hetero-male” set, or even their disjunction! That would be rather limited.
I don’t deny there is misogyny in some PUA sectors, and it’s puerile. This is the association I would most like to distance myself from.
In fact, I can think of no reason why gender is particularly relevant to this project at all. That’s a feature of PUA, and it doesn’t need to be transferred.
In fact, I can think of no reason why gender is particularly relevant to this project at all. That’s a feature of PUA, and it doesn’t need to be transferred.
Well said. I cringed when you included those dreaded letters in the title. Even though you distanced the proposal somewhat from PUA even just priming the subject was bound to damage the conversation!
This might be an artifact from my social circles and I don’t doubt that nicer PUAs might exist on the internet. However people having negative PUA experiences in real life affects how the label is seen by different kinds of people.
And that can be relevant if the project wants to attract others than the single-hetero-male crowd.
But it seems like many men on the hinges of the social circle seem to get an “it is ok to lie to get sex because no harm done in that to the women, and it is their fault for not giving enough sex in the beginning.” from various PUA sources.
Personally I am quite interested in ideas about open honest communication as good relationship practices and the whole “relationship management by white lies” is quite the opposite.
Then there are the ideas from Roissy etc that are directly misogynic
I absolutely do not want this to be limited to the “single-hetero-male” set, or even their disjunction! That would be rather limited.
I don’t deny there is misogyny in some PUA sectors, and it’s puerile. This is the association I would most like to distance myself from.
In fact, I can think of no reason why gender is particularly relevant to this project at all. That’s a feature of PUA, and it doesn’t need to be transferred.
Well said. I cringed when you included those dreaded letters in the title. Even though you distanced the proposal somewhat from PUA even just priming the subject was bound to damage the conversation!