Some of the very pinnacles of creepiness are achieved by men who attempt to pull off difficult and daring high-status behaviors but fall short of doing it successfully. I don’t know if this is what you had in mind with the scare quotes, but with this interpretation, your comment is very accurate.
I remember there was an old post at Overcoming Bias discussing this sort of situation, where a man’s failed attempt at a high-status display backfires and raises an awful red flag that he’s a clueless sort of guy who doesn’t know his proper place and will probably self-destruct for that reason. Unfortunately, I can’t remember the title and I don’t have the link archived.
Absolutely this is why such a strong epithet as “creepy” is applied. The implication is that such a deranged individual is one step away from running amok, raping and killing.
Many “alpha” behaviours can be creepy.
Someone being submissive is not creepy.
This as a personal note, not as a general truth.
Violet:
Some of the very pinnacles of creepiness are achieved by men who attempt to pull off difficult and daring high-status behaviors but fall short of doing it successfully. I don’t know if this is what you had in mind with the scare quotes, but with this interpretation, your comment is very accurate.
I remember there was an old post at Overcoming Bias discussing this sort of situation, where a man’s failed attempt at a high-status display backfires and raises an awful red flag that he’s a clueless sort of guy who doesn’t know his proper place and will probably self-destruct for that reason. Unfortunately, I can’t remember the title and I don’t have the link archived.
I think they go more into a “that person is more likely defect for his own win than cooperate” and “that person does not seem safe”.
Also being somewhat sensitive to the system people doing a status competition just stink on a personal level.
Then again I prefer androgynous cooperative helpful people, rather than overtly masculine (or feminine) ones.
Others might find the same behaviors very hot.
Absolutely this is why such a strong epithet as “creepy” is applied. The implication is that such a deranged individual is one step away from running amok, raping and killing.