This is almost certainly not true.
I think Duncan Sabien’s Law of Prevalence is a good frame for explaining this: https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/KpMNqA5BiCRozCwM3/social-dark-matter#III__The_Law_of_Prevalence
Based on your style of communication, I think it’s unlikely many people would feel comfortable telling you about these experiences, ergo the true number may be multiples higher than expected.
I think Duncan Sabien’s Law of Prevalence is a good frame for explaining this: https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/KpMNqA5BiCRozCwM3/social-dark-matter#III__The_Law_of_Prevalence
Based on your style of communication, I think it’s unlikely many people would feel comfortable telling you about these experiences, ergo the true number may be multiples higher than expected.