I had been trying to use “positive self talk” for years, but still found that I was extremely harsh to myself.
For me, talk wasn’t enough. Pairing the talk with physical acts of kindness dramatically improved my self-talk, efficacy, mental stability, and overall sense of well-being.
My methodology looks like this- whenever I do something for myself (even mundane daily tasks like making lunch) I consciously “give” myself the nice thing, saying something kind or reassuring while doing it (ie “I made this for you because I like you”, “I put the warmer blanket on the bed, you deserve to be comfortable”, “I got this for you because everyone deserves a little treat sometimes”). I have only been doing this a few months and the difference is a very noticeable.
This one is probably only relevant to people who didn’t learn positive self-talk growing up, but it was a life-saver for me
I had been trying to use “positive self talk” for years, but still found that I was extremely harsh to myself.
For me, talk wasn’t enough. Pairing the talk with physical acts of kindness dramatically improved my self-talk, efficacy, mental stability, and overall sense of well-being.
My methodology looks like this- whenever I do something for myself (even mundane daily tasks like making lunch) I consciously “give” myself the nice thing, saying something kind or reassuring while doing it (ie “I made this for you because I like you”, “I put the warmer blanket on the bed, you deserve to be comfortable”, “I got this for you because everyone deserves a little treat sometimes”). I have only been doing this a few months and the difference is a very noticeable.
This one is probably only relevant to people who didn’t learn positive self-talk growing up, but it was a life-saver for me