I think this list may successfully convince some to stay off the dating market indefinitely. Who in the world has time to work on all of this? At best, this is just a massive set of to-dos; at worst, it’s an enormous list of all the ways the dating world sucks and reasons why you’ll fail.
Upon reflection: This is a good collection of information, even if it is rather discouraging to read. May we all find exceptions to the unfortunate trends that seem to characterize the modern dating landscape.
Very kind of you to say. :) I think for me, though, the source of the emotion I felt when reading this series was something like: “Ah, so in addition to ensuring we are dateable ourselves, we must fix society, capitalism (at least the dating part of it), culture, etc. in order to have a Good Dating Universe.” Which in retrospect was a bit overblown of me, so I think I no longer endorse the strong version of what I said in that comment.
People should focus way more on things that make them better partners because they make you a healthier more rounded person and way less on idiosyncratic dating market dynamics imo. When you climb the health hill you meet others also climbing the health hill. When you climb fake hills you meet others climbing fake hills.
I think this list may successfully convince some to stay off the dating market indefinitely. Who in the world has time to work on all of this? At best, this is just a massive set of to-dos; at worst, it’s an enormous list of all the ways the dating world sucks and reasons why you’ll fail.Upon reflection: This is a good collection of information, even if it is rather discouraging to read. May we all find exceptions to the unfortunate trends that seem to characterize the modern dating landscape.
FWIW, from glancing at your LinkedIn profile, you seem very dateable :)
Very kind of you to say. :) I think for me, though, the source of the emotion I felt when reading this series was something like: “Ah, so in addition to ensuring we are dateable ourselves, we must fix society, capitalism (at least the dating part of it), culture, etc. in order to have a Good Dating Universe.” Which in retrospect was a bit overblown of me, so I think I no longer endorse the strong version of what I said in that comment.
People should focus way more on things that make them better partners because they make you a healthier more rounded person and way less on idiosyncratic dating market dynamics imo. When you climb the health hill you meet others also climbing the health hill. When you climb fake hills you meet others climbing fake hills.