I do not believe preferences themselves, or expressing them, should ever be considered wrong
Suppose that you have a preference for inflicting suffering on others. You also have a preference for being a nice person, that other people enjoy the company of. Clearly those preferences would be in constant conflict, which would likely cause you discomfort. This doesn’t mean that either of those preferences is “bad”, in a perfectly objective cosmic sense, but such a definition of “bad” doesn’t seem particularly useful.
The implication that the preference itself is bad only works with assumptions that the preference will cause harm, to yourself or others, even if you don’t act on it. But I don’t think this is always true; it’s often a matter of degree or context, and how the person’s inner life works.
We could certainly say it is inconvenient or dysfunctional to have a preference that causes suffering for the self or others, and maybe that’s what you mean by “bad.” But this still doesn’t justify the assertion that “expressing” the preference is “wrong.” That’s the thing that feels particularly presumptuous, to me, about how preferences should be distinguished from actions.
Neither do I, of course, but my impression was that you thought this was never true.
But this still doesn’t justify the assertion that “expressing” the preference is “wrong.”
I do agree that the word “wrong” doesn’t feel appropriate here, something like “ill-advised” might work better instead. If you’re a sadist, or a pedophile, making this widely known is unlikely to be a wise course of action.
Suppose that you have a preference for inflicting suffering on others. You also have a preference for being a nice person, that other people enjoy the company of. Clearly those preferences would be in constant conflict, which would likely cause you discomfort. This doesn’t mean that either of those preferences is “bad”, in a perfectly objective cosmic sense, but such a definition of “bad” doesn’t seem particularly useful.
The implication that the preference itself is bad only works with assumptions that the preference will cause harm, to yourself or others, even if you don’t act on it. But I don’t think this is always true; it’s often a matter of degree or context, and how the person’s inner life works.
We could certainly say it is inconvenient or dysfunctional to have a preference that causes suffering for the self or others, and maybe that’s what you mean by “bad.” But this still doesn’t justify the assertion that “expressing” the preference is “wrong.” That’s the thing that feels particularly presumptuous, to me, about how preferences should be distinguished from actions.
Neither do I, of course, but my impression was that you thought this was never true.
I do agree that the word “wrong” doesn’t feel appropriate here, something like “ill-advised” might work better instead. If you’re a sadist, or a pedophile, making this widely known is unlikely to be a wise course of action.
Right, those words definitely seem more accurate to me!