Arguably MDMA in the proper context. The chain of reasoning as as follows: One of the quickest traditional cures for sadness about a broken off relationship is a new relationship ---> the cure for a broken heart is to meet and fall in love with someone else as fast as possible ---> MDMA lowers inhibition and raises affection and touch (which are crucial for relationship formation) and theoretically should make the process of getting to know someone faster and happier ---> so if you take MDMA around the right people in the right place you can quickly fall into a new love.
Complete is a strong word that I should have qualified. Mastery is a better word. Control over it. Where your emotions bend to the will of your rational mind, not vice versa.
Don’t limit yourself without reason. As humans we are agents of change in an incredibly complex, chaotic system (society). Mastering emotional control allows us to become much more effective agents. Someone half as smart but with twice the self control in every area can easily beat the more intelligent opponent. Not every time, but it is a massive advantage. http://scienceblogs.com/cognitivedaily/2005/12/14/high-iq-not-as-good-for-you-as/
I didn’t say that it’s predictable, or that it is super easy, but it’s not particularly difficult and only takes a few months of commitment of a few hours a week, to bring a lifetime of reward.
I’m surprised that as a “rationalist” you suggest mastery of the emotions may not be desirable. Awareness of one’s emotions, sure. But letting them dictate your actions in any way, why? Be rational.
And one without mastery of their emotional state (that is, the experiential drag of depression, or impulsive actions of rage, or hurtful actions of uncontrolled lust, etc), one is at a disadvantage in almost any situation,
Ultimately it’s just a matter of choosing to feel a certain way. Find things you really like (for me, sex and cigarettes), then just do EVERYTHING to get that in every situation you’re in. Most people chase money. Break the mould. Chase something else. Realize that you can get everything you want if you know how to play the situation right. If you’d like to PM me we can discuss a ‘training’ programme that matches your lifestyle perfectly. (Context: I used to be a NLP trainer/dating coach)
Thats an example of one method of switching your mindset completely. Ultimately many mindsets can be imagined then enjoyed by the invividual if so chosen. Its simply a matter of self will primarily.
Why isn’t there a pill that makes a broken heart go away?
Ask Gwern, he probably knows something that’s good enough.
There might be eventually.
Something like that was discussed previously. Kevin recommended antidepressants in the comments.
Just time is both necessary and sufficient.
It will get better over time.
They are on it: http://www.academia.edu/2764401/If_I_could_just_stop_loving_you_Anti-love_biotechnology_and_the_ethics_of_a_chemical_breakup
Arguably MDMA in the proper context. The chain of reasoning as as follows: One of the quickest traditional cures for sadness about a broken off relationship is a new relationship ---> the cure for a broken heart is to meet and fall in love with someone else as fast as possible ---> MDMA lowers inhibition and raises affection and touch (which are crucial for relationship formation) and theoretically should make the process of getting to know someone faster and happier ---> so if you take MDMA around the right people in the right place you can quickly fall into a new love.
You don’t need a pill. It’s in your head. Mind over matter. Meditate. Learn complete emotional control. It’s not hard.
And when you can choose to be happy whenever you want, life is very good ;)
Um. Complete emotional control is in fact that hard, and not necessarily desirable either. It is certainly not a predictable result of meditation.
Complete is a strong word that I should have qualified. Mastery is a better word. Control over it. Where your emotions bend to the will of your rational mind, not vice versa.
Don’t limit yourself without reason. As humans we are agents of change in an incredibly complex, chaotic system (society). Mastering emotional control allows us to become much more effective agents. Someone half as smart but with twice the self control in every area can easily beat the more intelligent opponent. Not every time, but it is a massive advantage. http://scienceblogs.com/cognitivedaily/2005/12/14/high-iq-not-as-good-for-you-as/
I didn’t say that it’s predictable, or that it is super easy, but it’s not particularly difficult and only takes a few months of commitment of a few hours a week, to bring a lifetime of reward.
I’m surprised that as a “rationalist” you suggest mastery of the emotions may not be desirable. Awareness of one’s emotions, sure. But letting them dictate your actions in any way, why? Be rational.
And one without mastery of their emotional state (that is, the experiential drag of depression, or impulsive actions of rage, or hurtful actions of uncontrolled lust, etc), one is at a disadvantage in almost any situation,
Complete emotional control is not hard? o.O
How do I learn it, then?
Ultimately it’s just a matter of choosing to feel a certain way. Find things you really like (for me, sex and cigarettes), then just do EVERYTHING to get that in every situation you’re in. Most people chase money. Break the mould. Chase something else. Realize that you can get everything you want if you know how to play the situation right. If you’d like to PM me we can discuss a ‘training’ programme that matches your lifestyle perfectly. (Context: I used to be a NLP trainer/dating coach)
Thats an example of one method of switching your mindset completely. Ultimately many mindsets can be imagined then enjoyed by the invividual if so chosen. Its simply a matter of self will primarily.