For pure anecdote, I am a nice guy (I think) who always complained about the “bad boy” thing, and now I am raising a step-daughter from my wife’s youthful short term relationship with a guy everyone would still call a “bad boy.” My wife is winning at natural selection! As is that jerk :(
(I also thought about what would happen if nice guys switched to a jerk strategy until they were ready to settle down and then switched back, since that mixed strategy appeared to dominate either pure strategy, but then I realized that that would reduce the number of childless women for guys to marry, thus leading to a tragedy of the commons.)
Reading this anecdote made me wonder if it would be possible for a group of rational “nice guys” to cooperate with each other, refusing relationships with and shunning women who had previously been involved with and fathered children by “bad boys” even though each one of them would have to sacrifice the benefit they would individually get from entering into such a relationship. The idea being to make having a later father care for a baby sired by a jerk not a viable strategy for women, thus incentivizing them away from that behavior.
Roughly speaking you seem to be describing the norm for a lot of historical civilisations that I’m familiar with. The consequences for siring bastard children by bad boys is far lower now than it often has been.
Reading this anecdote made me wonder if it would be possible for a group of rational “nice guys” to cooperate with each other, refusing relationships with and shunning women who had previously been involved with and fathered children by “bad boys” even though each one of them would have to sacrifice the benefit they would individually get from entering into such a relationship. The idea being to make having a later father care for a baby sired by a jerk not a viable strategy for women, thus incentivizing them away from that behavior.
(I also thought about what would happen if nice guys switched to a jerk strategy until they were ready to settle down and then switched back, since that mixed strategy appeared to dominate either pure strategy, but then I realized that that would reduce the number of childless women for guys to marry, thus leading to a tragedy of the commons.)
Roughly speaking you seem to be describing the norm for a lot of historical civilisations that I’m familiar with. The consequences for siring bastard children by bad boys is far lower now than it often has been.
The origins of the madonna/whore complex?