Dating is a project that can easily suck up a lot of time and attention, and the benefits seem really dubious (I know someone who had their life ruined by a bad divorce).
I would be interested in the opposite question: Why *would* an EA try and find someone to marry? I’m not trying to be snarky, I genuinely want to hear why in case I should change my strategy. The only reason I can think of is if you’re a patient longtermist and you think your kids are more likely to be EAs.
While we don’t have controlled studies, married people do tend to be happier. Overall, many married people find the companionship of having another person to spend their life with fulfilling, rewarding, comforting, and generally very positive.
There is a risk of an unhappy marriage, but there is also a risk of missing out on what could be a really important relationship.
You could consider talking to people a few decades older than you who seem like the kind of people you might be in a few decades time, and asking whether they’re married and how they feel about it?
Dating is a project that can easily suck up a lot of time and attention, and the benefits seem really dubious (I know someone who had their life ruined by a bad divorce).
I would be interested in the opposite question: Why *would* an EA try and find someone to marry? I’m not trying to be snarky, I genuinely want to hear why in case I should change my strategy. The only reason I can think of is if you’re a patient longtermist and you think your kids are more likely to be EAs.
While we don’t have controlled studies, married people do tend to be happier. Overall, many married people find the companionship of having another person to spend their life with fulfilling, rewarding, comforting, and generally very positive.
There is a risk of an unhappy marriage, but there is also a risk of missing out on what could be a really important relationship.
You could consider talking to people a few decades older than you who seem like the kind of people you might be in a few decades time, and asking whether they’re married and how they feel about it?