It’s effective to operate in terms of abstract principles like this (with enough story-detail behind them that you feel positively drawn toward the expected result), whenever you realize you need to shift your habits.
For example, I’m especially bad at being even patient when convincing people that they’re wrong, let alone being diplomatic. Principles that could help me with that: leave them a line of retreat, ask permission, be excited in the process of understanding what stops them from sharing my belief/value, watch how they’re taking me. I guess more abstractly: care about why they don’t follow me, and care about creating mutual fun.
It’s effective to operate in terms of abstract principles like this (with enough story-detail behind them that you feel positively drawn toward the expected result), whenever you realize you need to shift your habits.
For example, I’m especially bad at being even patient when convincing people that they’re wrong, let alone being diplomatic. Principles that could help me with that: leave them a line of retreat, ask permission, be excited in the process of understanding what stops them from sharing my belief/value, watch how they’re taking me. I guess more abstractly: care about why they don’t follow me, and care about creating mutual fun.