If you commit to doing or following up on something for somebody, tell them to bug you if you don’t get back to them about it. You’ll feel less stressed about remembering or being obligated to do it because you’ve shifted at least some of the responsibility to them and given yourself external pressure, which is ultimately more efficient than relying on your own willpower anyway.
Conversely, give yourself permission to bug people, though without judgment. You know how you feel when you have email in your inbox that you know you really ought to get to, but don’t? Somebody is feeling that way about your email right now. How helpful would it be if they electronically tapped you on the shoulder as a reminder? More helpful than getting more and more resentful because they’ve forgotten/don’t care/don’t consider you valuable enough to bother replying.
Give people permission to bug you.
If you commit to doing or following up on something for somebody, tell them to bug you if you don’t get back to them about it. You’ll feel less stressed about remembering or being obligated to do it because you’ve shifted at least some of the responsibility to them and given yourself external pressure, which is ultimately more efficient than relying on your own willpower anyway.
Conversely, give yourself permission to bug people, though without judgment. You know how you feel when you have email in your inbox that you know you really ought to get to, but don’t? Somebody is feeling that way about your email right now. How helpful would it be if they electronically tapped you on the shoulder as a reminder? More helpful than getting more and more resentful because they’ve forgotten/don’t care/don’t consider you valuable enough to bother replying.