I think most people have a different conception of what “trying to be clear” means than I do. They can talk abut true love or what’s “really” love, but the very few who actually try to get an operational definition across usually start by tabooing “love” when trying to communicate specific beliefs and experiences (though still using it in more casual, romantic, or poetic settings).
I recommend this as a technique when trying to draw out clarity from someone as well. Don’t make them define terms, most people aren’t great at the activity of generalizing and re-specifying that language is built on. Instead, ask them do describe what they mean in this context, by asking for statements that do not use “love”.
Note: this rarely leads to kissing. If that’s your goal, I’d advise to delay semantic exploration for another time.
I think most people have a different conception of what “trying to be clear” means than I do. They can talk abut true love or what’s “really” love, but the very few who actually try to get an operational definition across usually start by tabooing “love” when trying to communicate specific beliefs and experiences (though still using it in more casual, romantic, or poetic settings).
I recommend this as a technique when trying to draw out clarity from someone as well. Don’t make them define terms, most people aren’t great at the activity of generalizing and re-specifying that language is built on. Instead, ask them do describe what they mean in this context, by asking for statements that do not use “love”.
Note: this rarely leads to kissing. If that’s your goal, I’d advise to delay semantic exploration for another time.