I can tell you this is a thing in PUA community. Believing that every girl wants you is incorrect, but more helpful than (also probably incorrect) belief that no girl wants you.
Maybe. Believing that no girl wants you means you won’t try with girls and it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. Believing every girl wants you means you will try and, even though you won’t bat 1000, you’re chances of success are literally infinitely higher.
I’m not a basketball expert at all, but I don’t think you can choose to avoid the defender so that seems like a different thing than what I was getting at.
I think that in both situations you want to have some sort of honest filter about which girl/defender to go after, but once you do make that decision, it is beneficial to think “I’ve got this”.
I see it differently. I think there are various places where you can ask the question “Do I want to apply an honest filter here?”. (Or rather, to what extent do I want to stretch the truth?)
I can tell you this is a thing in PUA community. Believing that every girl wants you is incorrect, but more helpful than (also probably incorrect) belief that no girl wants you.
That makes me think of sports as a similar example. Eg. believing your defender can’t stop you in basketball.
Maybe. Believing that no girl wants you means you won’t try with girls and it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. Believing every girl wants you means you will try and, even though you won’t bat 1000, you’re chances of success are literally infinitely higher.
I’m not a basketball expert at all, but I don’t think you can choose to avoid the defender so that seems like a different thing than what I was getting at.
I think that in both situations you want to have some sort of honest filter about which girl/defender to go after, but once you do make that decision, it is beneficial to think “I’ve got this”.
This post is about not having honest filters. Sounds like you disagree with that theory.
Which is fine, just explains where we are missing each other.
I see it differently. I think there are various places where you can ask the question “Do I want to apply an honest filter here?”. (Or rather, to what extent do I want to stretch the truth?)