“That said, the cost to me of other people doing the work of not being offended by my actions is of course extremely low, which makes that strategy maximally efficient for me.”
Sure, but as someone whose skin has become a lot thicker over time I see the primary benefit of that change is to me. I didn’t require the cooperation of offenders to experience less pain.
With little further ongoing effort I’m now largely immune to what many experience as a world of hurt. For the rest of my life. Seems efficient to me. I think it was a lot easier than retraining the world to be less offensive to me.
Yes, growing a thicker skin might be very difficult for some, but most people can make very productive headway. This appears to have been overlooked by Yvain.
I certainly agree that in cases where “growing a thicker skin” (which I understand to mean self-modifying to be less offended by a given act) is relatively cheap, it’s worth considering.
Yes, that’s what I mean. And “relatively cheap” has to factor in the benefit of all of the pain you avoid for the rest of your life by thickening your skin, not just the cost of modification of the “offender”.
Sure, but as someone whose skin has become a lot thicker over time I see the primary benefit of that change is to me. I didn’t require the cooperation of offenders to experience less pain.
With little further ongoing effort I’m now largely immune to what many experience as a world of hurt. For the rest of my life. Seems efficient to me. I think it was a lot easier than retraining the world to be less offensive to me.
Yes, growing a thicker skin might be very difficult for some, but most people can make very productive headway. This appears to have been overlooked by Yvain.
Fair enough.
I certainly agree that in cases where “growing a thicker skin” (which I understand to mean self-modifying to be less offended by a given act) is relatively cheap, it’s worth considering.
Yes, that’s what I mean. And “relatively cheap” has to factor in the benefit of all of the pain you avoid for the rest of your life by thickening your skin, not just the cost of modification of the “offender”.
There’s a lot of win on that table.