Great post. But I’m a bit confused by the title. What does “dark arts” refer to? Does it refer to your ex’s emotional manipulation? If so, I was under the impression that “dark arts” connotes a manipulation with conscious intent.
This is correct. I realize this may differ some from the strict definition but I feel the same tools were used, conscious or otherwise. Thus, the information is relevant in case someone ever consciously tries to manipulate you in the same way. Also, intentionallity is a spectrum. You may be a consciously trying to manipulate but feel justified and not view it as manipulation, as was probably often the case with her.
I liked the article fine, but I do think if “dark arts” is going to be used in the title you should spend a few sentences at some point explaining it (in particular for newcomers to site who won’t know what dark arts means in the first place, let alone Lesswrongians who know what it means but are still slightly confused as to your intent)
I’ve decided to just change the title to simplify things. If anyone has any better suggestions for it, let me know. Instead of awkwardly trying to fit in an explanation, I thought it better to just remove the reference. I think this post deviated from my original vision quite a bit.
Great post. But I’m a bit confused by the title. What does “dark arts” refer to? Does it refer to your ex’s emotional manipulation? If so, I was under the impression that “dark arts” connotes a manipulation with conscious intent.
http://wiki.lesswrong.com/wiki/Jargon
http://wiki.lesswrong.com/wiki/Dark_arts
http://wiki.lesswrong.com/wiki/Why_This_Post_Isnt_Much_About_Dark_Arts__Oops
This is correct. I realize this may differ some from the strict definition but I feel the same tools were used, conscious or otherwise. Thus, the information is relevant in case someone ever consciously tries to manipulate you in the same way. Also, intentionallity is a spectrum. You may be a consciously trying to manipulate but feel justified and not view it as manipulation, as was probably often the case with her.
I liked the article fine, but I do think if “dark arts” is going to be used in the title you should spend a few sentences at some point explaining it (in particular for newcomers to site who won’t know what dark arts means in the first place, let alone Lesswrongians who know what it means but are still slightly confused as to your intent)
I’ve decided to just change the title to simplify things. If anyone has any better suggestions for it, let me know. Instead of awkwardly trying to fit in an explanation, I thought it better to just remove the reference. I think this post deviated from my original vision quite a bit.