He was essentially gaslighted into thinking he had to sit there and suffer about it, rather than saying “oops” and laughing it off.
He already knew how to relate to pain pretty well from his older brothers playfully “beating him up” in what is essentially a rough game of “tickling” that teaches comfort with mild/non-harmful pain. In fact, when I stopped to ask him if it was the pain that he was distressed about, his response—after briefly saying “Yeah!” and then realizing that it didn’t fit—was that when he feels pain his brain interprets it as “ticklish”, and that it therefore it didn’t actually hurt and instead “just tickles”.
Everyone else was uncomfortable for him though, and while he was prepared to laugh off a burn that was relatively minor all things considered, he wasn’t prepared to laugh off a strong consensus of adults acting like something definitely not okay happened to him, so as a result he was pressured into feeling not-okay about it all.
He was essentially gaslighted into thinking he had to sit there and suffer about it, rather than saying “oops” and laughing it off.
He already knew how to relate to pain pretty well from his older brothers playfully “beating him up” in what is essentially a rough game of “tickling” that teaches comfort with mild/non-harmful pain. In fact, when I stopped to ask him if it was the pain that he was distressed about, his response—after briefly saying “Yeah!” and then realizing that it didn’t fit—was that when he feels pain his brain interprets it as “ticklish”, and that it therefore it didn’t actually hurt and instead “just tickles”.
Everyone else was uncomfortable for him though, and while he was prepared to laugh off a burn that was relatively minor all things considered, he wasn’t prepared to laugh off a strong consensus of adults acting like something definitely not okay happened to him, so as a result he was pressured into feeling not-okay about it all.