Thanks for the last section because that’s totally what I was going to comment while reading the rest of it! Feminine beauty standards are so deeply internalized that they don’t subjectively feel like they have anything to do with men or dating — they feel closer to, like, moral truths? Or something?
Like, I’m afraid of gaining weight not because I think it would be bad for my health or make my husband stop liking me, but because I’ve internalized the message that being fat is an unacceptable moral failing — and I’ve felt this way since at least the beginning of puberty, even though I never dated anyone until I was 21, and don’t date much in general or have much interest in it. My sister feels this way and she’s a lesbian who has never had any interest in dating anyone in her life. I feel better and happier when I’m wearing a pretty dress and have taken good care of my skin. I like putting on makeup despite the fact that my husband actively dislikes it (as have some other men I’ve lived with, but at least my husband is nice about it). Why any of this? idk tbh
Thanks for the last section because that’s totally what I was going to comment while reading the rest of it! Feminine beauty standards are so deeply internalized that they don’t subjectively feel like they have anything to do with men or dating — they feel closer to, like, moral truths? Or something?
Like, I’m afraid of gaining weight not because I think it would be bad for my health or make my husband stop liking me, but because I’ve internalized the message that being fat is an unacceptable moral failing — and I’ve felt this way since at least the beginning of puberty, even though I never dated anyone until I was 21, and don’t date much in general or have much interest in it. My sister feels this way and she’s a lesbian who has never had any interest in dating anyone in her life. I feel better and happier when I’m wearing a pretty dress and have taken good care of my skin. I like putting on makeup despite the fact that my husband actively dislikes it (as have some other men I’ve lived with, but at least my husband is nice about it). Why any of this? idk tbh